光之家人-看清楚自己

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光之家人-看清楚自己

dear heart,The idea of falling in love is a very common and very sweet fantasy. Many people think that the most beautiful moments of their lives are when they fall in love with someone. But I don't think so. The most beautiful thing in life, in my opinion, is having complete freedom to be yourself. And when you don't have any attachment to anything, neither to a person nor to a belief system or to a country, nor to your reputation, your name or anything else, When there is no attachment, then you are free.
亲爱的，坠入爱河是一个非常平常非常甜美的幻想。很多人认为生活中最美好的时刻就是坠入爱河的时刻。但我不这么认为。在我看来，生活中最美好的东西就是能够自由做自己。当你并不依附于任何东西或者人或者一个信念或国度或名声等等，当没有依附，你就是自由的
The need to be in a relationship with someone is one of the biggest causes of unhappiness. There are two reasons for this:
需要和别人处于一段关系中是其中一个不快乐的原因。有着两个缘由：
First, because we simply don't understand ourselves fully, how can we be with someone else? The more we try to control others, the more insecure we become and the less happy we will be.
第一，因为我们并不完全了解自己，我们又如何与他人相处？我们越想要控制别人，我们变得越没有安全感和不开心
Second, when we feel lonely, we chase after people. We want to fill that void inside of us. But when a person realizes their true nature, they feel complete within themselves. He doesn't need anything from the outside world to make him happy.
第二，当我们感到孤独，我们就去追逐别人。我们想要填补内在的那个空虚。但当一个人意识到自己真正的本质，他们会感到完整。他不需要外在的任何东西来让自己开心
We tend to project our own desires onto other people: "If you really loved me, you would do this for me." This leads to disappointment because no one can fulfill your expectations, which have nothing to do with reality anyway.
我们倾向于把自己的渴望投射到别人身上“如果你真的爱我，你就为我这么做。”这会导向失望，因为没人可以满足你的期望
When you realize that nobody can make you happy except yourself, it is a great relief. You are no longer trapped by your desires or expectations. You never have to say "if only" again; there is nothing missing from your life, and you don't have to depend on anyone else for your happiness.
当你意识到没人可以让你开心除了你自己，这会是一个巨大的慰藉。你不再被你的渴望或期望困住。你永远不需要再说“只要”；你的生活中没什么东西丢失，你不需要把你的快乐寄托于任何人
It takes two to tango. It is impossible to love someone if you are incapable of being alone. If you are unable to be with yourself, it is impossible for you to be with another. You cannot share yourself because if you try, you will lose yourself. Then there will be no freedom left for you. You would have given your freedom away to the other person and become a slave, a prisoner.
一个巴掌拍不响。如果你无法一个人生活你也无法爱别人。如果你无法与自己相处，你也无法与别人相处。你无法分享自己，因为如果你尝试，你会失去自己。那么你就不会有什么字油。你会把你的自由交给另一个人，成为了俘虏
The one who loves never loses anything by loving; rather, he gains everything. That is the paradox. Only by risking it can one ever find security. That is why only those who can be alone are capable of loving, sharing, and entering the innermost core of another person — without possessing, becoming reliant on, transforming the other into a thing, or becoming addicted to the other. They give the other complete freedom because they know they will be as happy as they are now if the other departs. The other cannot take their happiness because the other does not provide it.
懂得爱的人永远不会因为爱而失去任何东西。相反，他会获得一切。这是悖论。只有冒险的人才能找到安全感。所以只有能够一个人生活的人能够去爱、分享、进入另一个人的内心---而不占有、依赖、改变另一个人。他们给予另一个人自由，因为他们知道如果另一个人离开，他们也会和现在一样开心。另一个人无法拿走他们的快乐，因为另一个人并不提供它
Love is not a relationship between two people. It is a relationship between one person and himself. When you love someone, you love that aspect of yourself that you are capable of seeing in another human being. That's why the other is so important to you. That's why he or she is so precious to you. Without the other, you can never see yourself.
爱不是两个人之间的一段关系。而是一个人和自己的关系。当你爱某个人，你爱是的你在另一个人之内看到的某个自我面向。所以另一个人对你来说如此重要。所以他/她对你来说如此珍贵。没有另一个人，你永远看不到自己
The possibilities of love are not in a relationship in which one has to depend on another, but in a relationship in which both are independent and can really love each other—each loves the other because he loves himself and that other person allows him to see a bit more of himself.
爱并不存在于一个人需要依赖于另一个人的关系中，而是两人都能够靠自己生活，能够真正爱彼此的关系中---爱彼此因为他爱自己，另一个人允许他看到更多的自己
Truly loving someone means seeing him as he is, without any effort on your part to change him or make him different, and without any expectations from him whatsoever; just accept him as he is. The real love does not think about changing the object of his love; he loves it as it is.
真正爱一个人意味着看到他的所是，不去试图改变他或让他变得不同，不去期望他什么。只是接纳他的所是。真正的爱并不思考改变另一个人；
The truth is that in a relationship, you're not supposed to be dependent on the other. In fact, when two people are really in love, they help each other grow, they challenge each other, and they bring out the best in each other. You're not supposed to create an addiction to each other. You should be independent and whole even when you're apart--capable of loving others if the person you love is no longer there.
事实就是在一段关系中，你不应该变得要依赖另一个人。事实上，当两个人真正爱彼此，他们会帮助彼此成长，他们会挑战彼此，他们会把彼此最好的一面带出来。你不应该对另一个人产生依赖。你应该读力、完整，即使当你们分开---即使你爱的人不在了，你也能够去爱别人
A relationship is a union of two people who have accepted each other's differences and decided to build on those differences. They see the negative sides of their partner as well, but instead of focusing on the negativity, they choose to focus on the positive parts. A relationship is all about learning from your partner and building a lasting connection with them.
一段关系是两个“接纳彼此的不同并决定基于那些不同建立”的人的联合。他们也会看到伴侣的消极面向，但与其专注于消极，他们选择专注于积极的部分。一段关系是关于向你的伴侣学习，与他们建立一个持久的连接
Truly loving someone is the most selfless act you can do. When you love someone, you don't act out of fear, neediness, or compulsion. It's not about what you can get from them or how they make you feel. You love that person because that person makes your life complete and meaningful--because every day with them brings something new, exciting, and beautiful into your life.
真正爱一个人是你可以做出的最无私的举动。当你爱某个人，你不会出于恐惧、需求或冲动行为。它不是关于你可以从他们身上得到什么或他们让你有什么感受。你爱那个人因为那个人让你的生命完整有意义---因为每天和他们在一起会带来新的、激动人心的、美丽的东西
When you're capable of this kind of love, it radiates from within and all around you. People who experience it will never forget it and will always come back for more. They'll fall in love with whatever aspect of your life touches them—your smile, your eyes, your spirit—but it all comes back to this love that shines through everything you are.
当你能够拥有这样的爱，它会从你之内和周围散发。体验它的人永远不会忘记它，总是会回来想要更多。他们会爱上任何触动他们的面向---你的微笑、眼神、精神---但一切都会回到通过你所是的一切闪耀的爱。
The ability to be alone and enjoy your own company sets you up for a healthy relationship. If you are not able to be happy when you are alone, the chances are that you may be addicted to your partner or be in an unhealthy relationship with them. You will feel sad about them leaving or being away from you, and in your mind, you will become dependent on them being around for your happiness. In such a scenario, if the other person leaves or is not around anymore, you will feel miserable and lonely.
一个人生活以及享受陪伴的能力会让你建立一段健康的关系。如果当你一个人独处的时候无法开心，你可能会对你的伴侣产生依赖或者与他们拥有不健康的关系。你会对他们的离去感到悲伤，在你的头脑中，你会依赖于让他们处于你身边来变得开心。在这样的情况下，如果另一个人离开或不在你身边，你会感到痛苦和孤独
The heart is as big as the world, and if you are true, every living being belongs to your heart.
心就和世界一样大，如果你是真心的，每个生物都属于你的心
We love you dearly.
我们很爱你
We are here with you.
我们与你在一起
We are your family of light.
我们是光之家人

日期：2022年5月14日
传导：Aurora
译者：NickChan